You are the key person for a ten-month-old who screams every morning when his mother leaves, and she says she is thinking of taking him out. What do you do over the next fortnight?
What they're testing: Building a secure attachment, learning the family's soothing routines and keeping the parent informed.
Show a strong answer to: You are the key person for a ten-month-old who screams every morning when his mother leaves, and she says she is thinking of taking him out. What do you do over the next fortnight?
Build a strong, warm relationship with him and learn from his mother what soothes him. Keep the routine the same, be the one who greets him, and tell her honestly how he settles each day. Short, regular updates and a plan for the next days give her something to hold on to.
As the key person for a ten-month-old who screamed when his mother left, I began with her. I asked what soothes him at home, and she told me he likes a muslin cloth that smells of her and being rocked while a song is hummed. I asked her to bring the cloth, and I did the same pattern each morning. I met them at the door, took him in my arms while she was still there, said a quick goodbye with her and never sneaked away. After she left I held him, walked to the window to wave, and then settled to a familiar activity with a basket of textures. I sent her a photo and a message after fifteen minutes each day. The first week he cried for about twenty minutes. By the end of the second week it was a few minutes, and on the Friday he reached for me when she handed him over. She decided to stay. Building a strong, loving relationship with him came first, and that is what I focused on.