At the end of lunch a girl in Year 3 tells you quietly that someone at home hits her, and asks you not to tell anyone. What do you say and do next?
What they're testing: Listening without leading, not promising secrecy, writing down facts and reporting to the DSL straight away.
Show a strong answer to: At the end of lunch a girl in Year 3 tells you quietly that someone at home hits her, and asks you not to tell anyone. What do you say and do next?
Stay calm, listen and let her talk without asking leading questions. Do not promise to keep it secret. Tell her you need to share it with someone who can help. Write down her words and what you saw as soon as you can, then pass it to the DSL straight away.
A Year 3 girl once told me, while we were tidying the reading corner, that her mum's boyfriend 'hits me when he's cross' and then said, 'Don't tell.' I did not promise anything. I said, 'Thank you for telling me, that was brave, and I can hear it's frightening. I can't keep this a secret because I need to tell someone whose job is to keep you safe.' I let her talk, asked only 'Is there anything else you want to tell me?' and did not ask who or when. I stayed with her until the bell, then went straight to the DSL and gave her what I had heard in the child's own words. I wrote it up before I left that afternoon with the date, time and place. The DSL took it from there, and I was told only what I needed to know. I learned that my part is to listen, to be honest about what happens next, and to hand it on without delay.
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